I’ve found myself in a very uncomfortable situation as of late.
Let me explain.
One of my best friends used to be friends with this guy. Well, it was more of a ‘textship’ as such, as they never hung out just the two of them or anything, they just texted each other a bit. When asked about it, my friend admitted she had a wee crush on this guy. This crush lasted about a week and wasn’t reciprocated. Nothing happened between the two parties and they stopped texting. (On a side note, this friend of mine is very popular with males. She’s had numerous crushes and numerous males have had crushes on her). This all happened at least 4 months ago, and there have been many other male interests since then.
Anyho, I knew this guy too as we all hung out in a group a couple of times, and he came to my 21st. I ran into him in town a few weekends back and had a fairly decent conversation with him. Numbers were exchanged. Now before anything went further, I asked said friend if she was ok with me talking to him etc etc. She said it was fine. So I accepted a brunch and then dinner date with this guy. And I started to get excited and happy and started to like this guy. I had dinner with my friend the other night and my date came up and my friend seemed fine and supportive of the whole thing, and was telling me of her recent dating ventures. I again asked her how she felt about the whole situation, and she said she was sweet as with it. All kosher.
The next day I got a text from my friend telling me she was not ok with me hanging out with this guy, that it was disrespectful, that she never wanted to hear me talk about him, that it was something a friend should never do, and that I’ve fully ruined our friendship.
Here’s what I don’t understand:
- If you aren’t ok with something, why would you tell me it was fine?
- I know friends ex’s are off-limits (it’s like friend code), but friends of friends? I didn’t realize there was some rule there.
- If it was a brief crush, ages ago, and she’s over it, what’s the big deal? I’ve had lots of crushes in my life, and if one of my friends started liking one of them I would honestly be fine with it, cause I’m over them
- Why can’t my friend be happy for me? Does she really have to ruin my excitement?
It just makes me really sad. And I hate stupid drama like this and I don't know how to handle it.
What do you think of the situ, readers? Advice/thoughts would be appreciated.